We’ve had a few life changing moments in the past decade. Mr Scraps was injured in a workplace accident.Our household income took a major dive (due to Mr Scraps accident and my own decision to pursue an arts career and then further education rather than work in an industry that didn’t allow for much ‘family time’). We’ve lost family members, friends and mentors to cancer and other health related issues. We decided to have another child (the Threenager). Add to that, we got older and (hopefully) a little wiser.
We spent a decade in a weird kind of limbo after Mr Scraps was injured.Waiting for (or rather being bullied by) insurance companies to decide whether he was worth ‘fixing’, struggling to make ends meet, feed kids and have some sort of life (any sort) where we didn’t end up miserable, cynical, overweight and unhealthy..
I’m sure Mr Scraps will have his own view on it all, but I was terrified that I’d end up one of those grumpy gossipy old women you meet sometimes in line at the bank or the post office, you know, the ones that hate everyone and everything because somewhere along the line life handed them a rotten orange and they didn’t know that you could chuck the thing in the compost and go pick a new one.
Somewhere along the line we decided we didn’t want to live a rotten orange life. I’m not quite sure when. It may have been when we decided to add the Threenager to our brood, it might have even been before that or it may have been after… it doesn’t really matter when we decided, or even whether it was a conscious decision or not, it just matters (to us) that we did.
I call what we do living “Low & Slow“.
No, we’re not hippy tree-huggers living in a tiny house growing our own sprouts and vegan home-schooling our kids on bicycles (but if you are that’s so awesome and I’m a little jealous).
￼We live in a little rental house, don’t really garden (I try but I’ve literally killed a cactus in the past), I have a job (just started in my first graduate archaeology position), we live on lower than the Australian average household income, drive a car (it’s old but reliable and fits two adults, five kids, plus Scrap Cat and the Immortal Chicken if required), our kids play mainstream sports, we own a TV and a lot of DVD’s and love the fact that we have running water and air conditioning when its hot. All in all, we’re fairly “normal”.
But we do care about the kind of environment we’re leaving behind for our children and the attitudes that we pass on.
Living Low is really all about living with less … less waste, less cost, less environmental impact, less sugar, less chemicals, less fuss, less stress and less chance of developing any major health issues later on…
Living with less takes some adjustment. It’s been an ongoing process and we’re still learning as we go.
What we have learned is that it’s not about never having any bills or never eating out at a restaurant ever again (we ate out over the weekend), but rather about knowing that you can pay those bills in a reasonable amount of time and have the occasional night out at a fancy restaurant without giving up any of life’s true necessities or having knots in your stomach when the waiter presents you with the bill.
By living low we’ve managed to get a little fitter, to live within our means and actually enjoy it. We’ve also learned to focus on experiences rather than things.
Living Slow is about taking the time to actually enjoy life without the hustle.
It’s not about being lazy and doing nothing, or being so perfectly organised that nothing ever goes wrong. I still go to work and do university, Mr Scraps still runs the Teens to and from sports practice, the Uni-Student works two jobs.
What it does mean is being able to take a breath between activities and appreciate the little things in life, like ten minutes in the sun with a pot of tea.
It means being able to leave the stress of work or university or whatever else you do at the place where you do it (I know, easier said than done for some of us). It means choosing what’s important for you and your family and making it a priority, actually putting it into your schedule rather than just dreaming about it.
It’s not about living in you’re own little insular dream bubble, but making real connections, with family and with community. It’s also about appreciation. Appreciation for those connections, for the environment and about finding joy in the simple things.
For us it’s also about conscious,sustainable living. About taking the time to learn how things work and where they come from or even making them ourselves.
And there’s also indulgence, in travel, in natural, wholesome foods and in new experiences….
All in all, it’s a mindset that defines who we are and how we choose to live.
How would you define the way you live ( or want to)?